To me, fragrance is an art form much like how makeup and fashion are art forms, and fragrance is an accessory to any outfit in much the same way that shoes, bags, makeup, hair, and jewellery are accessories to an outfit. Being Asian almost every woman has her "signature scent", it's very prominent in our culture. Whenever my mum wears her favourite perfume from 15 years ago, it reminds me of my life growing up. I love to smell good, I will wear even just a light spritz when im chilling at home. It makes me feel put together and whole. I love how everyone's preferences are different and how unique it is to each individual :) Now im a perfume junkie lol, always trying new scents. I feel like a lot of people can relate with their love of perfumery starting from their culture.

Perfumes traditionally were either masculine which tended to be herbal, woody, and smoky with hints of incense and resins. Feminine fragrances tended to be more floral and aldehydic. The fruits and citruses you mention tend to be unisex and are used in both. Aside from these very loose guidelines, nothing is set in stone. Wear what you like, and ignore the gender-marketing cubby holes.

My favourite perfumes are priced everywhere between £0 and £300. One of the most lauded amber scents in the world (regrettably JUST discontinued), "Amber Paste" by Kuumba Made, is one of those little hippie oils you get at Whole Foods and it cost £10.

Im not telling you to wear perfume, obviously people have allergies then I would highly recommend oud. 

Oud has a very strong and powerful long-lasting aroma, so it is only added in small amounts to create more depth and complexity in fragrances. The concentration level of oud is generally much higher than the level found in perfume. Middle Eastern women carry bakhoor burners through their homes to spread the fragrance, which lingers in carpets, curtains, and other fabrics. Both men and women stand over the burners to allow the smoke to perfume their clothing and hair, as the bakhoor selection is a way to express one's self through fragrance, mixing and matching multiple scents according to season, whim, or social occasion. A favorite blend is commonly gifted during casual gatherings as a gesture of hospitality. I never see YouTube reviews on Aqua de Parma Original Unisex and that’s why it is my favourite! AdP Oud is one of the best Western Ouds out there. It competes with Tom Ford Oud Wood. I'll still sample some new ones and impulse buy cheapies (i don't mean just good deals, but cheapies on throwaway deals) out of curiosity, but my wardrobe is pretty set.

Oud is in itself a multi billion dollar industry and there is so much fake stuff out there so do not buy oud from Amazon, Ebay, Alibaba, Aliexpress, the jury’s out in Temu but I don’t trust that place.

You can buy from Etsy but it is recommended that you go with trusted artisans like Rising Phoenix Perfumery, Royal Bengal Oud and Agarwood Assam.

There are big perfume houses from the gulf that produce oud oil and will sell oud chips for incense use. They will usually be sold under the moniker “Bakhoor” from incense chips, and Dehn Al Oud (sometimes spelt Dahn Al oud, Dehn El Oud or Dahn Al Oudh). Note the term Bakhoor seems to be a interchangeable one it can describe both plain raw oud chips or a type of incense made from soaking woods in perfume oil. Be careful when buying as they will smell completely different(and I’m going to be blunt most mixed Bakhoor smells cloyingly sweet synthetic and aldahyic.

Perfume/oud does not have to be expensive. The really basement-tier dupes of popular brand scents are so good these days it's often worth dropping the £10 at Zara or The Body Shop. But the real oud is very expensive, I’m talking £5,000 per pound in weight. Some of my favourite ever perfumes were from Superdrug like Britney Spears and Black XS.